The person who asked the question seemed quite miffed at that response, and you are right in saying that not all responses will go down well with everyone and in each context. I typically understand people are just curious , but I also felt annoyed sometimes. Sign in. - tom5, Sep 24, 2009. One of the questions I dread most is a seemingly innocent one: where are you from? Alice is a US citizen, born and raised in the US. Change ), You are commenting using your Google account. Sometimes we are just plain curious about where someone has been, and the most direct way to ask it is ‘Where are you from?’ It is very thoughtful of you to not generalise. The correct answer is the name of the place where you are from. If you prefer cultural activities there are museums and art galleries. Where did you grow up? I’m sure you don’t get the question all the time, if at all. 8. Mind if I use it??? It’s a struggle to live with. Texas is where we last moved from and where my daughter is truly from…born and raised in Texas for most of her life. Nevertheless, I get people reiterating the question to me again, or they will prod, “Where did you grow up?”. We carry our hearts wherever we go, and who we are is the makeup of the heart. I usually instinctively say Auckland (as that’s where I was born), but then they’ll ask “No, where are you really from?” or “Where are your parents from?”. the questioner's "here". You might wish to clarify the entire question and answer if you indeed want to know from what country or town the person is, thus avoiding ambiguities: "De quel pays/ville êtes/venez-vous?" If the question uses "have", Where have you come from? Even if we don’t want to answer the “Where are you from?” question with “I grew in Nigerien, French, English, American and mission ‘soil'” (!) If so, I'm fully authorized to live and work in the U.S. It often tends to be a conversation starter for a lot of people. I’ve seen this video before – it certainly applies to a lot of Asian-Australians who are born in Australia. I grew up there. Until now! I have lived in Bangkok my whole life. Where are you from instantly makes it feel like I’m not from here, but perhaps I’m a bit more sensitive towards this question, as it’s been something that’s been asked my whole life. So sorry for you and sad people actually have another opinion of you entirely after you’ve answered the question. How to answer “Where are you from?” is entirely up to you. One learns to see and experience so much coming from a family of different nationalities and having the opportunity to live in more than one place. Then people will say “I’m from Belgium”, but their answer sounds like, it’s obvious ,why do you ask, meanwhile they also understand that it should not be the first thing they ask before get to know more about me as a person . Now I live in three countries. So I also took some from Sri Lankan and Thai since I lived there a bit. Even individu… And we continue to define people based on something that is beyond their control? I remember when I was younger telling my mum “I wish I could just say I’m from one country” Or “I wish I were only from 2 countries” to make my life easier. Be awkward AF & try to avoid the question. But we were relating, finding things in common, sharing a passion and our story. They are not satisfied with my answers until I tell them what my ethnic background is. Why are you interested in me? Save my name, email, and website in this browser for the next time I comment. There's many ways to answer, because "where are you from" can mean different things. Friendly strangers often mention where they are (presumably) born and then the ball’s in my court. perfectlybaked. Here's everything you need to know. Great post! I either state all 5 countries which I absolutely hate! Sorry – but in my experience, I do not find the question intimidating in the least. I wonder how many of them would be able to give you an answer if you asked them what they’re actually trying to find out. Australia is where I found my independence, love for travel, and the courage to try something my family never thought I was capable of doing on my own. Thanks for stopping by, Brian. . Then the person I’m talking to would likely say, “But you don’t have a southern accent so you can’t be from Texas…” and it’d go on and on because I don’t feel like my natural answer is Maine anymore. I quite honestly cannot stand this question. I suppose there are many of us who are more sensitive towards the question because whatever we answer with would be how others see a part of our identity and if it gets quite deep, maybe even stereotypes on personality, behaviour and values. updated Sep 25, 2009. edited by 00494d19. This can take soul-searching and a lot of creativity – but it’s worth it. Where did you come from? For you though your accent would confuse a lot of people la. Very few, I suspect. That is so true. I spent 18 years of my life in Maine before heading off to college so there is no doubt that so much of who I am today is a result of 18 years in Maine. You are from here. Australia is a migrant country, so you would think that a lot of Aussie citizens/ancestors are from diverse background and/or countries. Dec. 19, 2020 9:42 a.m. PT. But it really is fun sometimes to get people to guess my heritage and race when it pops up! “Where are you from?” might imply: Where were you born? If the question uses "do", Where do you come from? , Australia is where I found my independence, love for travel, and the courage to try something my family never thought I was capable of doing on my own. Some people will think it weird that you ask them ‘Where are you from?’ back, like it is almost insulting to them. Photo: Mabel Kwong. “Where are you from?” is an OK question, and I do love to answer it. Lv 7. 6. I really like your friend’s response. The question where are you from to me is like asking, where is your home, and home is in NZ for me. "I've come from John's house." Yes A single home produces a small worldview, which is what I discussed in my most recent poem. Always been fascinated by how some people can comfortably call one place “home” , Well I spent the first 18 years of my life here. Fine, thanks. You are you, Kerry. Which country I was born in? Who wouldn’t claim that as their home!?!? You might be shaking hands, too. Lv 7. Kathy. Or when I feel apprehensive towards the person asking me the question or the person sounds nosy. It's located in the north of the country, not really that far from the southern Chinese border.Is there much to do in your hometown?Oh yes, there's certainly lots to do there as it's a fairly big city. It must be interesting when people met you and they wonder where you lived previously. I’ve had a few people look at me differently after I have told them as well. Where are you from? Cheers. i know quite a few people who were born in the same country as me but have slight foreign accents. To be frank, my speech is rarely peppered with Singapore-Malaysian words…it’s the intonation of my words that makes me sound foreign. If you prefer cultural activities there are museums and art galleries. I think I might try and see how many different answers I can give before we get to my ethnic background. California is where I met my hubs, fell in love, and where I truly thought I was meant to be. I’ve had some conversations with some people where I can just feel that they want to know where I’m from but don’t dare voice that question, possibly afraid they’ll offend me I presume. – Yo soy de Colombia. No one likes having to answer the same question over and over and over again. The differences will become clear later on, I hope. - A guy asked me while we were in Bangkok. This question is different from this excellent one, since it is not about tourists. I guess people usually nod their heads at this response and the conversation would, hopefully, quickly drift from there to a topic less personal and invasive. I suppose if you take the time to know someone and what they can do and in general the way they think and behave, then “Where are you from?” becomes less and less daunting and awkward. I think a lot of the time they don’t expect to play this lovely guessing game. Fine. Number 8 is a creative one. Are you a bad person? This question is an ambiguous one. What do you think of the answers? I also finds that this sort of “breaks down” the list of countries and doesn’t sound so excessive (It probably does but not as much as option 1) If you hate me so much then let me die. For example, when people ask “Where are you from?” they’re usually wondering where the person was born and raised. As Melissa Loh has discussed, it can mean: Which city I live in? To me, your background is very interesting. I feel your pain, Mabel. Omg, I just thought up of a good response to use, the next time someone asks me where I’m from: “We are the Borg. This is where I have 3 options: I like option 8! # 8 is genius! Although, most days I will say “I was born in NZ but my parents are from Taiwan” or I’ll ask “Do you mean where I was born or my ethnicity?”. If fate were to allow us to meet I’d love to give you a friendly hug. And now, you know a whole lot more Japanese than before. I’d rather people mind their own business. Create a life you love. You can sign in to give your opinion on the answer. So we’re all from “somewhere” or “some place”! Change ), You are commenting using your Twitter account. Good answers! Very thought provoking too.I don’t think anyone can be defined by where they are from, so it’s a rather pointless question! 1) I don’t like to be framed or put a label on me. What do you want to know about me? 8 months ago. Where is your hometown?My hometown's in Hanoi, which is the capital city of Vietnam.